Shining Star!

 

Well, I’ve an urge to write this now.. Every time, when I heard them mention, ‘Revathy mam, Revathy mam’, I’m like what? What the? Are you kidding me? She is none other than the last but one in the family but you saluting her as ‘mam’ and all that.. Well, its my sheer ignorance in failing to acknowledge the very fact that, you’ve grown above and beyond, in all aspects of life! This little gal of our family, who is supposedly got that senior position, due to the one who is writing this ;), is now a mere role model for many children and women out there in the locality.

This gal-turned-woman(who is now a popular, ‘kai raasi’ diabetologist cum family physician) has merely witnessed and spent a significant portion of time and energy in almost every band of this life spectrum! Happiness, sadness, emptiness, depression, fantasies, dreams, wishes, and what not. She had been through that ‘happy-go-lucky-girl’ phase of that life to ‘oh-my-god-what’s- this’ sort of life!  From a girl who had everything she wished for, who was just walking on a bed of roses, who was in utter care and love of her parents (mom and dad equally – Mrs and Mr Janakavalli Varadarajan), was nothing but the center  gravitational force around which they got pulled, over and over, to a suddenly grown up woman, who perfectly knew everything even without learning, be it home management, cooking, cleaning, driving, studying, chilling, communicating, decision making, leadership, and what not..

I’m simply amazed and have had spent days wondering from where did you learn all this and what is that what that taught you to stay so hard and give a slap when life hits you so hard.

The way you guys fought the rain battle in 2015, doesn’t it mean that you lived so well that death wanted to see you guys live? You fought so hard that even ‘fate’ accepted its ‘defeat’! When you stood up and smiled after loosing everything, every single thing literally, sorrow wanted to see you smile more and more and more 🙂 Isn’t it?? With this kind of an attitude, you’ll go places.. Sky is the limit for you!

I know you’ve had terrific learning in all aspects of life so far and wish you retain that wealth and apply it as you continue in this long journey.. All that you gave will come to you in manifold! And do give more and more, for giving is all that we are here for! You were the princess for your parents and you are the ‘queen’ for your ‘king’.. You’ve played this game well and all that you see today, all you are reaping today, credits to you, for you were the one who experienced all the pain and continued doing justice to all that you did in the past! Nevertheless, I will not forget to mention the immense contribution, love, , and care showered on you by our lovely parents. You owe them forever 🙂 You’re blessed, for being their child,  and they’re equally blessed, for having you as their daughter. Either ways, I think the equation is completely balanced now. Now, with your partner-in-crime, I wish your life is even more beautiful, and I’m sure he is standing by you in all that you do and will help all your dreams come true! May you guys love each other till eternity and spread the same compassion and love to fellow human beings and creations..

I’m just flowing with my thoughts here, may not be a coherent one though, yet is much needed, for if its not me, then who is gonna write this for you?

They say, ‘Diamonds are hard to cut, even if you cut, it will still shine, for that’s the nature of a diamond’.. Be that shining star, continue to spread positivity in your surroundings, and don’t ever forget to serve, for you’re in that holy great profession, where service is the first thing and is the only thing! All the respect you earned is meaningful! With love in heart and service in mind, I’m sure you’ll scale greater heights and we’ll always continue to be on your side, shedding happy tears,  sending secret wishes, and prayers, forever!

You know what! isn’t it beautiful to pen down my thoughts and leave it here? This can’t be destroyed, I may not be there for my soul is contained in a human body, but this message and post will be here, and I wish the message stays with your soul until eternity!

Many to come! Heartiest Congratulations on all your achievements ,  Madame, Dr. V.Revathy !! May you touch many lives and be the source of happiness! Stay blessed!

Lots of love and wishes to Appu, Papunnu, Kulla Tara, Pedha Munna ;), Munna !!

— Family!!!!!!!!!!!!! (that’s inclusive of ………… 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 ). Then, Now, and Forever!!

 

PS:

For those of who are wondering what is that I’m talking about, you can glimpse through these..

 

Chief Guest, KidZee, 2019 –  is our little girl, Madame, now, Rajesh Anna’s cute wife, Mrs. V.Revathy !!

Working Women Achiever Award ,2019 –  Dr. V. Revathy

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Motivate India – Our role and responsibility towards nation

“Sarve bhavanthu sukinaha! Sarve shantini niramayaha ! Sarve bhatrani bhasyanthu maakaschidu kababpyathe” (let everyone be happy, let everyone be healthy, let everyone prosper in this country) –

Let’s do what it takes to be happy, to let everyone be healthy, and let everyone prosper.. And that’s all that we can do towards our nation. But I remind, it begins with you and I. We’ve to be the change we want to see. We have to know what our strengths and weaknesses are, and we’ve to capitalize on our abundance and richness, for we are the pillars of our mother India! On that note, I take immense pride for having got the blessing to be in the hands of and enjoy this warmth from my mother India! Love, respect, dignity, faith, loyalty, and trust is that which keeps anyone growing! If each of us realize this, mother India can prosper even better! And that’s why we are here!

India – land of abundance, wisdom, divinity, glory, and growth. A country with a strong economy, having had produced and continuing to produce educated, humane, and contributing people towards welfare of the world, `a country which is fighting against uprooting few weeds, a country that is secular, that allows anyone and everyone in the world to prosper and grow –  pure bliss!

 

From Ayurveda( – only system that gets to identify the root cause) to invention of zero to vedas to architecture marvels to intellectual inventions to scientific achievements to spiritual dominance to nobel laureates to name anything, any field, any sector, we’ve our imprints on it! Well, what else could one ask for? Stand up and take this country forward in the right direction. Our ancestors should feel proud and safe for leaving our mother India in our very own hands. Lets live up to their trust and then pave way for next gen to live up to our trust! That said, You and I are blessed to be here. This is a holy, spiritual, divine, rich, nature abound, blessed land. Realize that as early as possible and start giving to your nation. Enough received, isn’t?

Well, knowing this very fact, celebrating this very reason, should give us enough pride to hold our heads high and do more and more towards our nation and world welfare. You know what? People came looking for wealth in India. We were that rich. A country, that was once taken over, a country that won in style, a country where ahimsa won, a country that have had many revolutions, a country that is abound with natural resources, a country that is spiritually rich, a country that has world’s best unique culture, a country where humanity prevails and wins over everything else, well, what else can one ask for? If we keep seeing lack, only lack will continue to grow (Sri Sri), but if we continue to keep seeing abundance, appreciate, and encourage organic growth, lack automatically gets removed. It’s like “If the door has to open, we’ve to knock it, in first place”.

This is one life. One time. You and I never know if we get to live this life one more time. So, make the best possible use and become a better version of yourself, for face is the index of mind, and we, citizens, are the representatives of our mother country. Feel that ownership, take responsibility, get up, and keep moving in the right direction. You know what, as the saying goes,

“ If all that you can do is crawl, keep crawling –(Rumi)”

India – My mother – more than a country, India (she) is a feeling. You and I are blessed to be born in this stupendously rich, abundant, cultural, and hospitable country. You and I are blessed for we only see the humanity in human beings. We don’t know caste, creed, religion, etc., for our mother is secular and so are we. Blessed, we are.. Isn’t?

When I say rich, I refer to the richness we’ve in terms of culture, virtues, values, love, affection, caring, sharing, loyalty, humaneness, intelligence, wealth, nature bound, and well, this list goes on and on and on. Well, richness again is a feeling. And of course, if anyone measures richness only with GDP, profits, etc., we’re still rich. My India is like a diamond – a diamond that had and is handling every single issue exceptionally well. Needless to say, it is we, the citizens of mother India, who make our country proud. She is pure, she is rich, she is caring, she is love, and she has bestowed you with abundance. You and I have the very responsibility to stand up, feel grateful for all that she had blessed us with, and do all that we can do to make her feel proud, for having us as her children. So, here as a citizen, standing up, tall and proud, sending a strong message to all my fellow citizens (from a child to the senior most person) that it is high time, we realize the richness and the abundance we’re bestowed with, take every single constructive step to make this country a much better place for ourselves and for immigrants. You and I are making it rich! When I write this statement “You and I are making our mother India rich and proud – I tell you, there is oodles of energy and life force flowing in me, I tell you, such elated am I to have gotten this opportunity to motivate my fellow citizens. YOU are important. YOU are going to be the change that you want to see. If you can do what you to see, do it. And your act will itself trigger a chain of such good things.

 

To all parents and teachers,

Teach your children virtues. Instill virtues. They will then pick it up. Integrity matters. If you instill integrity, such a child, when getting into a powerful responsible position, will do right things. Instill them a mentality to serve others. Do not compare them with others. Each child is unique on its own. Identify their potential and help them grow. Parents and teachers play a pivotal role in helping children becoming responsible citizen towards a nation. Do not evaluate your child based on score. Appreciate your child when you see them doing innovative things. Help them be on their own. Let them take decisions, and let them fail, let them learn, and make sure to monitor if they don’t repeat their mistakes, rather learn and become a better child.

Teachers again, hands down, for all your wonderful contributions. It is you who is single handedly building the pillars of our nation. You are awesome and you are selfless, for you have contributed your life towards the betterment of our educational system, and towards the betterment of our own children. Way to go! Please innovate in your teaching methods. Abdul Kalam is the finest example of what a teacher could do towards our country growth. He had inspired many students, he had contributed towards important scientific projects, he had contributed towards the nation by assuming presidential role, and had been role model cum motivator for many people around. His vision of India becoming a super power by 2020, wow, that’s what a teacher can do towards our nation. Instill those dreams, infuse them into young blood, and help India become the best in all sectors.

To all my fellow students,

History, geography, civics, economics – well, most of us think these are boring subjects, and try to memorize for time being, and get it off. Now, see it this way. We are born in this country. Isn’t it our responsibility to know our history? A kid requires a mom to show who their father is, a kid is super curious to know their past, people, their gain, pain, everything. And we don’t forget such things as those are things that makes our life rich. So are these subjects. Getting to know about our mother country, in depth and breadth, give us a fair advantage, to understand her richness, to represent her, and for future proposals. Patriotism is a feeling .All of us patriotic. Even if you deny, it’s true. We’re patriotic, and that immense love that flow through our eyes and that shines in face, is patriotism. So, first, we respecting our mother country, is all the more important.

Trust me, invest your energy and resources here. You are brilliant, you just have to believe in your mother, and make sure you contribute by investing your ideas and help other fellow citizens grow.

To all my fellow women (stay-at-home and/or working)

Women – As the saying goes, if a man is educated, he is educated, but if a women is educated, whole family is educated. Women are not a less privileged section of the society. Aren’t we proud of Kalpana, who breathed her last, while on a space mission? Well, it is a big loss to our scientific world, yet, she took that courageous step to explore and innovate in that space. Every women has her own potential. She is by nature, a great leader, a great manager, a great communicator, a great listener, and most importantly, she is compassionate, by nature. She is caring, responsible, accommodating, and this list goes on and on and on.. My very own mother, has done way lot, has contributed way too much towards our family. She has sacrificed her own wishes to bring her kids up and to help my father concentrate on his job. To all young women out there, get up, wake up, and shake up. I see you all as budding entrepreneurs. I tell you, Sky is the limit. All the limits and boundaries you’ve, are enforced on you. As long as you know your limits, nothing can stop you from growing. This country is way too good and leverage the best possible to prove your worth. Do everything that you could do towards your mother. And I tell you, the satisfaction you derive out of this contribution is going to be immense. Simply you will not find words to express this feeling.

To all men

Men – you’re the pillars of this society. You’ve additional responsibility in terms of protecting your women and everyone you come across in this society. You’ve to spice up and see women as how you would see your mother. You’ve to protect your friends, kids, sisters, neighbors, and other fellow men. Try influence people who don’t see others in this mode. I tell you again, this is one life, there is no point in wasting it towards things that gets you momentary happiness. Do things that light up your soul, be brave, and speak loud, and be clear. Men in my life, my father, my brother, my uncle – all of them had given me enough freedom to think and act. All of them have had always encouraged me to give my best in all facets of life. All of them had always helped me grow and sustain. None of them have had ever suppressed me stating that I’m a girl, I can only do this and that, etc. They know that I know my limits. They trust me and I trust them. It is this mutual trust and respect that has helped me grow and reach this point. There were many times when my brother have had to do household work to let me spend those 5-10 minutes in revising for my tests. Such blessed I’m..And so is every woman out there.. even if you do not have people support you, do not get upset, keep doing, keep moving, and make your best efforts to make them understand what your priorities are in life. At some time, they will be with you. That’s end of story. So many women had assumed primary positions and have had delivered extremely well. So many men have had delivered so well in their responsibilities, for they have had someone take care of their personal side of things. So, its all give and take here. Contribute and take.. Take and contribute.. Make sure there is mutual understanding and growth. That’s important in life. IF there is mutual growth at family level, nation will grow on its own.

To all politicians out there,

Anyone and everyone, who has the heart to server public, especially needy sections of the society, I wish these people should assume powerful responsibilities. They should naturally have the inclination towards serving society. Corruption should be the first thing that they would try and uproot from this society. Given all the efforts from Indian government from cleanliness to improving our economy, its natural for India to become a super power in the near future. Go with the intent to serve, and money is not that which matters.

To all celebrities out there,

Let your charm positively affect your followers. Please help spread positive messages, and help motivate our people give their best. I’m sure your voice will be heard and its quite easy to do things when it comes from our favorite person.

To every citizen out there,

Exercise your right to vote! We’re a democratic nation. It is by us, for us, and of us. Make sure your voice is heard in terms of who you would want to bet on. Whoever assumes responsibilities, make sure, you get a chance in that big decision.

I would like to highlight few efforts we have in place to project the latest and greatest developments we have had:

Digital First India:

Demonetization has caused lot of people to move towards digital payments. As much as it had opened up innovation in fin tech space, so much benefits are coming with it for general public. We don’t have to worry about duplicate currency, now black money will have to significantly decline. Imagine a point where we have completely moved towards digital currency that would be the end of black money era. Especially with technologies like block chain, it’s going to become highly impossible for anyone to give black money or corrupt anyone else or influence them or bias them to get their done. Period. It’s going to go away and we should celebrate it as a nation. Come on, folks! That’s a glorious achievement for a country like India, and it would help us explore avenues that would put us right there in the super power spot.

Digitizing land registrations is phenomenal. With this move, it is going to be literally impossible for anyone to forge in real-estate business. With every single transaction, land registration, EC, and other details getting into digital system, we’re moving towards a more stable and unbreakable, foolproof system that would help bolster realizing our 2020 mission.

Goods and Services Tax:

16 other taxes were replaced with a single tax and more than 1 million businesses were registered. Now, they all are reaping benefits. Eventually, with this tax, selling price will come down, this would help consumers , producers, manufacturers, buyers, and/or re-sellers.

Aadhar (16 bit biometric number):

Broken 1 billion user record( source: Harvard business review). First of a kind public sector effort to issue unique identification number, and now linking other services with aadhar is opening up space

Startup India:

Startup India encourages people to develop their own startup companies. Indian government have had already invested lot of funds and are helping individual entrepreneurs encourage use ‘Startup India’ program. It’s a wonderful initiatitive on government’s behalf, and very recently, count of startups registered under this program had significantly improved. I take this opportunity to invite all budding startup enthusiasts to leverage this opportunity and encourage ‘Startup India’ culture.

Make in India:

Another wonderful strategy to help foster Indian products.

Economic market:

We’ve a huge, educated economic market here in our country. We all can make educated decisions and know what to do and what not. Majority of the MNC’s are seeing this

Ecological footprint (Pollution):

Be aware of how much ecological footprint we’re leaving on this planet. This is not just about our country. I’m talking about mother earth here. For every single thing you, the footprint that you leave, the rate at which Mother Nature replenish its resources, this has to go hand in hand but that’s the not case right now. Every person consumes a greater portion of natural resources, we’re depleting it at such a fast pace that mother nature is finding it hard to replenish it. Breathe, and give space for mother nature, as well, to breathe. Think about it, my fellow people. And just imagine, if mother nature explodes or vents her frustration, in the form of volcanoes, or tsunamis, or floods, we cannot handle her frustration, at the same time, it is we (knowingly or unknowingly), responsible towards causing this imbalance. It is who are intruding rivers and building apartments. It is we who are destroying habitats of many animals and make them go wild.

Clean India is a great initiative from Indian government to help preserve cleanliness in our dear country. Cleanliness is next to godliness. As much important it is to be divine, so much important it is to thrive in a hygienic environment. Increased population has led to a sizeable increase in vehicle usage, and hence pollution. It’s the responsibility of every single person to make sure their vehicles are maintained such that they’re not emanating harmful pollutants affecting atmosphere and fellow human beings. Also, every single manufacturer should design eco-friendly vehicles. Surge of electric and eco-friendly vehicles could help preserve us and future generations from pollution. Many Indians who are residing at foreign countries are quoting pollution as one primary reason as to why they would not make the move to come back to their mother country and help contribute towards her development. I would not mistake them but would like to include them in this movement to help India become a pollution free country, as the saying goes, “be the change that you want to see J”

Educational System:

Practicality is important. We have to change this a bit to help students shine. Each one’s potential should be identified and fostered.

Sports ( catch them young):

Identify young natural talents and help them give their best. This will bring us global reputation.

Brain Drain (talents moving away to foreign nations):

We should give all freedom and resources to help talents research here. This is one area where we need to really improvise on. Most of the talents are in lookout for opportunities outside for we don’t give them enough freedom to explore here. Attending this would help us go places.

All that said, I would urge all fellow Indians to arise, awake, and fear not! It is our nation. It is our responsibility to keep this haven a haven. We’re blessed, better utilize all that you have and help everyone realize this very fact. Just do good and be good! And that’s pretty much! Jai Hind!!

Algorithms Series – Post 1

Algorithms – It’s a very beautiful detailed topic with loads of depth. Knowingly or unknowingly, we use algorithms in our day-to-day activities.  I’m going to write a series of posts about algorithms to explain it in much simpler terms for wider audience.

That said, how can we define algorithm? Its basically a procedure to solve a particular problem. Set of protocols to be solved while solving a particular problem. It comes with constraints. Given this this, how could you achieve this within this much time or space..

To make it even simple, if you’ve prepared tea in your life, you’ll know that you require the following inputs:

  • Tea powder
  • Milk
  • sugar

And then you’ll have to do the following:

  • Get a kettle
  • Turn on your gas stove
  • Boil milk
  • put some tea powder
  • Let the essence spread over milk
  • Wait for some time
  • Now, turn off gas stove. get some sugar and serve hot.

So, pretty much, that’s a simple algorithm to prepare tea (which is nothing but the problem in question).

Well, there are many many sophisticated algorithms solving real time problems. And the biggest concern with your algo is time and space complexity.

So, if you go back to the tea preparation algo, can you see if there is an option for you to optimize it better? if you have a tea bag, then your job becomes much simple. All that you’ve to do is to get some hot water or milk, add sugar, dip this bag to take your sip.

At any point in time, when you devise an algo, please consider time and space complexity. All that you solve for, would span out to be a much bigger problem, eventually consuming hell lot of time is strictly not acceptable. This is why, people always prefer a constant solution (something that runs quickly with exponentially growing inputs).

Let me cover some important algorithmic paradigms and famous problems in future posts.

Stay tuned!

Thanks!

Alcohol – Slow Poison!

Well.. This evening while I was riding on to home, I saw  a long queue and was beginning to wonder why that place was so crowded and what was the queue for, only in the end to know that the queue lead people to TASMAC (wine shop!).

Well, what is alcohol?

Is it a cure for some disease? No

Does it make you feel relieved? You think so but its actually NO!

What is it then? Its just a chemical called ethanol produced by fermentation and is mixed in certain proportions and sold out as liquor.

Does your body need ethanol? No.. Then why do you supplement it with ethanol? Do you think how difficult it will be for your body and how many organs are involved and what all happens while converting this complex chemical to a simple substance?

Alcohol via oesophagus enters into your stomach and from there to intestine, then it mixes with the bloodstream, that way, it goes to heart and to brain as well. So, stomach assumes its a food and tries to break it down.. Its so complex, so it pushes it to liver which in turn breaks this complex ethanol to acetaldehyde and CO2. So, you literally get nothing out of it.

It just enters your brain and interrupts synapses between brain cells which is why lose control and you begin to blabber. its plainly because your brain activity is interrupted and when liver can only break at a certain rate and when you cross the limit, alcohol concentration in the bloodstream increases and you begin to lose conscience. You do wierd things and its because of interrupted brain activity.

All that you do is hurt your liver, brain and kidney because kidney had to excrete this additional water content. So, you really dont get low or high. You just hurt your system and begin to lose control.

Just sit quietly. Be calm and think through once 🙂 Big deal, huh?

You can slowly begin to reduce alcohol intake and then replace it with fresh juices yaar!

Too big of an ask! Try na 🙂 You’ll begin to feel the difference. Why would you want to disturb your god given system? Drink water instead na!

I’m writing this as a well wisher. Nothing more, nothing less!

Whether or not, you take it up, its up to you!

 

Cheers!

Yamini L

Love – Emotion or existence?

LOVE – Can anyone define love? No way! One can only experience LOVE. One can only feel love. Can we see god? No… We still believe in god, we’ve tremendous faith in god, so is love. It doesn’t mean that only a boy and a gal can be in love. As a matter of fact, anyone on this planet can love anyone else or anything. It’s just not a boy-gal thing. It’s more than that!! The very reason behind my inspiration to write this post is that I’ve seen and heard various interpretations of love. Love is innate! It is just flowing in you, is there in your every cell, and is what is holding you and this entire universe! Every single creature loves! You’re being loved by everyone and everything!

If you’d ask me, there is a big list of people who I love. At the same time, there is a big list of things that I love, list of mysteries that I love, list of problems as well that I love!

I love my family, my friends, children, elders, god, myself (my immune system, digestive system, respiratory system, sensory organs, hands, legs and most important of all, my very tender heart 🙂 and my very lovable, curious idiot, my brain :)..  Well, I rise (or fall?, let’s rise in love 🙂  with almost any and every kid I come across in life. And of course, I love my car, love my two wheeler, love my home, my city, certain foreign lands, love my laptop, love stars, sky, that mysterious lady- moon, the bright guy – sun, our solar system, those 9 planets, galaxies, oceans, insects, animals, dogs, cats! And it doesn’t stop there!

I love dark nights, dawn, dusk and brisk early mornings! I love birds, their chirping, their activities, their wanting to share their food with their friends and family! love my terrace, love my trees, my garden, my plants, flowers, fruits, I even love those rats that come out from a tunnel to eat those last dropped food particles! I love my squirrels, how cute, the way it beautifully grabs food with 2 hands!! Awww ❤ 🙂 🙂 ! Love my mom’s patience to feed these creatures every single day! And the way she gets amazed on looking those kids drinking water, enjoying her food and all that!

Most importantly, I love nature! I love boomi madha (mother earth). Imagine nature is one of the most beautiful creations or creator ever! Nature creates resources and replenishes as time fades through! Nature gives us everything! There are lot of things or mysteries around us and if we begin to wonder, we’d simply fall(or rise :)) in love with every single thing we come across! Nature is a marvel beauty!

I love snakes, their tunnels, their scales.. Wow! See how nature gave scales to snakes, see how we’ve our skull protected with hair and all that! See, how every single creature on this planet has some mechanism to protect themselves from their enemies and to adapt to the environment? See this beauty. If you look inside, there are innumerous things that you’ll wonder about! Though you may satisfy your quench with certain scientific explanations, yet you’d be left in that state of amazement! Isn’t it?

Do we know how our brain works? Do we know how many electrical impulses are generated inside? Do we know how WBC fights against pathogens? Shouldn’t we love and thank our WBCs for actively waking up and for fighting against pathogens or foreign bodies and protecting us from any disease? Huh? Think!

Have you seen platelets immediately responding to your wounds? Have you observed your tissues regrouping? Have you observed your nails? Have you observed those sounds on digestion? Baby inside mom’s womb? Isn’t amazing? Baby, the way it positions itself inside womb, the way placenta carries food? Which math logic would we apply here? It just takes care of itself. Does someone instruct these systems to behave this way? Is it brain? Then who is instructing brain to give instructions to other systems? Huh????? Well, these are beautiful mysteries that will leave us in a deep state of wonder! One side we can keep wondering! Other side we can keep finding out and learn about and thank these systems?

Those lungs, diaphragm, rib cage, marvel beauty – spinal cord – the way its gets attached to brain stem – bone marrow, longest bone – femur, do you know how our knees work? How many joints are there in our body? How beautifully various bones are architected inside to come together in such a way that we can walk, run, kick, hit and do all that we can do with our legs without any friction?

That tender lovely heart – those 4 chambers – the way it pumps out blood to brain and to other parts of body – rate at which it pumps – arteries, veins – Huh? Beyond science, do we see how beautiful these organs are? I’ll make a request here… Just keep your heart very pure and clean. Please!! Knowingly or unknowingly, please don’t do a thing or two that’ll affect your heart or others heart! All that we’ve to do is to simply care for everyone we come across in life without any intent and we’ll naturally have a pure heart! And if we know very well in advance, that we are affecting someone else’s heart, let us give them a chance and hear their thoughts before we do anything! Do we know everything? Nah, so, nothing wrong in letting others speak!

Just think! There are lot of things inside us that if we think through will help us rise in love with ourselves and with fellow human beings.

Anything and everything that we get attached to or in other words, we care, we love it! We even feel for a non-living object and sometimes it feels good, sometimes, it simply takes a big toll on us! It just depends!

I do not know if we should call it as attachment and just ignore saying that attachment is the root cause of all pain! I think it’s more than attachment. I think its seeing beyond what is said. Most of the times, between what is said and what is understood, certain beautiful things are lost! And you don’t have to say things! Words doesn’t count! It’s only your actions that proves! Just walk the talk! Sometimes, if things are beyond control, we should at least clarify and most importantly see things from other side! What we think is not at all possible can be a peanut of an effort for others. We really don’t know. So, we should always hear what people has to say! At no point in life, should we be responsible for destroying someone or something! As much as we can, we can give our best and try to construct someone or something!  Let us be optimistic and give our best without any expectations to everyone who we come across in our lives. We should or can lead someone or something on, but in the end, let us be there to catch when that thing or person has issues… If not, the whole idea of leading on is gone! It’s okay to give people whom you trust, the power to destroy yourself! Because, we trust them not to 🙂

Don’t we love our memories? Don’t we love our school days? Don’t we love our college days? Don’t we love our first time fancy dress competition? Don’t we love our blunders? Don’t we love our teachers? Don’t we love all those who took care of us and who fought with us over time?

So, one cannot express their love for their family or objects by continuously saying it loud, one has to live their life in such a way that everyone or everything around feels loved. Anger is love, fear is love, hatred is love, fighting is love, talking is love, working is love, sleeping is love, your thoughts are love, your actions are love, every single thing or human beings represent love, for my parents loved each other, which is why now I’m  even writing this article. Isn’t it? Anyone while talking to us, should feel energized and should always leave on a positive note. If anyone is suffering, we should see through it and help them get out of it!

Distance, Time, money, looks – All these doesn’t count! All that matters is how we connect with people! Just that!We like and we love your dog but remember our dog unconditionally loves us.  That is important! Our dogs loves us beyond our imperfections! We win or lose, our dog will still love us! We feed or don’t feed, dog still loves us, we’re physically or mentally handicapped, our dog still loves us, short or tall, white or black, skinny or chunky, have job, no job, rich or poor, cruel or kind, our dog still loves us! That is seeing beyond ! That moment, we step in, our dog comes running all the way and gets our attention… Isn’t it? That’s love!  Our dogs love our souls, just loves us for who we are, not for what we are or how we look! Like mother child! Our mom loves us beyond our mistakes! God loves us beyond anything! Even if you show your face to mom, she comes back and talks to you in 2 minutes and you do the same. That’s love! Even if you fight with your brother, he still gets to know if you’re safe. That’s love! Even if you fight with your father, end of the day, he doesn’t sleep until you reach home. That’s love! Your sister loving you dearly is again love! A lady, who walks on road, could be an absolute stranger to you, but she smiles at you for no reason! That’s also love!

All this is natural because you’ve been with your people for so many years, you know them, and they know you! But those of you, who rise(or fall :)) in love, with a so-called stranger, that’s different! I can’t comment on this though but still I think that connect as well is a beautiful thing! It’s like 2 parallel lines always going together without any issues unlike 2 intersecting lines. I’ve seen few people who rose in love, being there for each other through the end… I’ve also seen few others, who had to listen to their parents or change according to the situations!

Step hard on your ego and kill it! Just be yourself! Be natural. If your nature is to not hurt others, to see things from others perspectives, care less for yourself and more for others, if those are your trademark traits, so be it! Do not change! I tell you, people like you are hard to find. All that’s required in you is sincerity, honesty, transparency and loyalty in all that you do! And rest  – that’s a given!

Always get into other shoes and see things from their perspective as well. They may have problems that we’re not aware of! Always, let others speak(give a chance) and do active listening. Let’s not get into “I know everything” mode, ever! This life is very short! You do not if there is hell or heaven or what will happen to your soul once you’re dead. So, be kind and love everyone beyond their imperfections!

Everyone is good enough! And let’s not judge! We’re not here for judging others. Just be kind! When we give someone a position or a critical place in our life, be sure to give it to someone who’ll live up to it and trust them and you can make them live up to it! Come what may, even its hardships all through, we should smile and face it through (given you get wonderful support)! It doesn’t take a lot of effort to do anything, however hard or tough it is, when we know its for our good or if its for the good of others (at least to me :))! We simply take it as a challenge and live through! Yes, at the same time, we cannot demand others but whether or not, we demand or request, we do not know! It just depends on how others perceive it! Whatever it is, let us not ignore someone or something for their imperfections or mistakes. End of the day, it’s just the heart and soul that matters. Rest is immaterial.

I’d like to leave you all with the best “thirukural”  about love and affection.

அன்பிற்கும் உண்டோ அடைக்குந்தாழ் ஆர்வலர்
புன்கணீர் பூசல் தரும்

Meaning – Is there any fastening that can shut in love? Tears of the affectionate will publish the love that is within.

I take this opportunity to wish everyone a very happy and a prosperous Tamizh new year!!

Cheers! Rise in love!

PS: Title of this post  –  Copied from SS 🙂 That’s how SS explains love!

Ma, Maa, Amma, Momma :) :)!!

Ma – Mommy – Mother – Well, a post to write about my mom!

Can god be everywhere?? Yes, No, May be?? Which is why god created mother!

This bond between a mom and child, in my opinion, lasts for 7 lives (or may be more than that). Right from day one, a women conceives a baby until she delivers it, that connect, I think every woman would have to go through to know what it is. For me, I’ve heard my mom describing that phase, when she was carrying me in her womb and all that I did inside, OMG!! This is one of the best connects ! Very very pure, extremely sacred, unconditional love! It started from the umbilical cord, though it was severed after delivery, yet there is an unseen cord shared between this duo, that keeps this relationship going! Come what may, no matter what, how many ever hardships she had to face, has any of us ever seen a mom giving up on her child?

Never, ever will she do that.. If we as a child commit any mistake, of course, she has to be authoritative and correct us but she is not going to DITCH us, right!! She is not going throw her kid onto a dustbin! She’ll not leave her kid and run away!! And anything in life, I don’t think can equal the sacrifice that a mom does for her child!

She has fed us with what? Her blood! Her blood converted to milk is what nourishes a baby for the first couple of years! We do not know or have any idea about the nutritional value of mom’s milk. Its a separate topic altogether but for now, its very important to know it’s mom milk that plays a pivotal role in determining the intelligence and immune level of the baby!

What else? Does it stop right there? Nah! From delivery to feeding to caring to holding our hands, see her baby walk, fall, cry, day in and day out, she lives for her baby!

It doesn’t stop there! At least in my case! Of course, all that I’m, I have to attribute it to my mom, for she was someone I always looked up to! The kind of motivation she gives, none can replace that! The way she talks, the way she presents, what all seemed to be tough would look like nothing for me! And yes, trust me, she kept winning every time!

She has that much FAITH on her baby gal.

Coming back, I feel everyone should celebrate womanhood and motherhood, for god, purposefully had given women the ability to carry a baby! A mother is a symbol of love, an epitome of patience, sacrifice, unconditional love, tolerance, compassion, empathy and what not!

I tell you, this is one life! If your mom wishes that you be with her, please be with her! If you have skills, you can always earn money! You can travel this whole world if you’ve the age!Timing matters! Everything is connected to time! if a moment is lost, its lost, there is no point in doing it late! Especially for people who live in foreign lands or people who stay away from your parents, please make it a point to reach out to them and often check how they’re doing! Give them due respect and do not tolerate anyone disrespecting them for any reason, whatsoever!

And do not do anything that will bring disgrace to your mother or to your father!

And I’m sure, they will not hinder your professional or personal growth! All that she wants is her children’s HAPPINESS. She will be ready to anything to make her child HAPPY! I tell you, raising children or parenting in itself is an art! You should know where to tightly hold , when to let loose and how to subtly present nuances to your children!

Many people have looked up to my mom for learning this art 🙂 Well, I’m humbled to share it with you all!

Other incident I’d like to share here. Recently, I visited an old age home just to interact with them and see if they’ve anything to share or had any requirements. I was really moved! Honestly, I was searching for my very own grandma and grandpa in each of them and I saw them! To me, it was like, my very own grandma and grandpa blessing me in their form! That being said, most of them were staying in home for this very reason that their children got settled in foreign lands and so, they did not have people to look after them. I take this opportunity to sincerely request people who live in foreign lands to take their parents as well with them. They may not be willing to come but persuade them and keep them in your vision! I don’t think its a fair game to leave them in a home and let third party folks take care! Not at all fair!

All that said, mother is a mother, nothing in this creation can come near this mom-child relationship! Its like souls connecting with each other! That electrifying soul connection is what people would look for in their life partner as well!

So, please think! Its never too late! I’ll leave you all on that note 🙂

Accommodate and love people and see how they get transformed! Love and Love can change anyone and everyone! There is nothing or no one who will not bend for love! So, keep loving your parents, keep loving your life partner, keep loving your siblings, keep loving your friends, show compassion to strangers, keep loving your pets and most important keep loving yourself!!

 

 

 

Brain – Masterpiece

Your brain, I tell you, is a masterpiece. All that it does, amount of processing, chemical reactions, neurons, synapses, when you get to know about all these, you kind of get amazed and you’ll begin to wonder about its creator!

Wow!! Your brain does lots of processing. Neurons (nerve cells) are the basic unit of communication.  Information transfer occurs via electrical impulses and is called as neurotransmission!  Neurons connect with each other forming a synapse and these synapses are responsible for creating memories!

And there is a small section in the limbic system called “hippocampus” and this section or part is closely associated with emotions and memories. It is this “hippocampus” that’s responsible for transforming short term memories to long term ones.

And in general, hippocampus tend to shrink for people who are severely depressed and for people who get treated for dementia or alzheimer’s disease. So, its very important to not stress your brain and to load it with happy chemicals just by being happy (We all know, its easier said than done)!

Overthinking or analyzing or constant searching for answers to questions,  tremendous shock, all these are factors that will definitely impact our hippocampus region. And remember, when hippocampus shrinks, your ability to interact with people, your ability to emote, your ability to focus/concentrate, your ability to give your best, your ability to remember things or form new memories will certainly diminish over a period of time. It will lead to severe mental disorder and you, as a person, could become mentally disoriented.  there will be extreme mood swings! I’ve come across people who’ve experienced such things and that kind of completely initiated a new drift in their overall personality. Those people preferred isolation,  preferred crying alone, preferred not to look into even their own people, preferred to stay away from anyone, disturbed sleep patterns, fear, preferred talking to psychiatrists to see what they’re going through! And I’ve also seen others disliking such people for their personality change. We can’t blame them but we can just attribute it to their super sharp brains and probably tender hearts 🙂 But remember, those super sharp solid brains would turn blunt if they continue this pattern, over and over!

So, its very important for you to educate your brain. Talk to your brain. Tell your brain that its a masterpiece. Tell your brain to be happy always (again, i know its easier said than done)! Tell your brain to not be too curious all the times! Train your brain and of course, your heart to be in sync with each other. If there is a conflict, you’ll definitely follow your heart but take your brain with you 🙂 That being said, sometimes, its good to follow your brain than your heart, for your heart doesn’t know things that your brain is aware of 🙂 And in the end, while following your heart, do ensure to not lose your brain!

Cheers!